And, we need to be consistent when it comes to helping them learn to do the same. We need to help them learn to "Listen" to themselves, to others and yes, to God and help them learn what it means to "respond" in helpful and appropriate ways. This is what matters and it is how they will feel fulfilled and experience joy!
When it comes down to it, this is basically living out Matthew 22:36-40 - "Teacher, which is the most important commandment in the law of Moses?” Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”