I love my friends, but think they have completely missed what wisdom is when it comes to their grandchildren and grown children. I am happy to spend time with my grandchildren; as often as possible. My grandsons have at least one sleepover at my house each week - I am very blessed indeed!
So, why do I believe it is real wisdom to spend as much time with my grandchildren as possible? Consider the following . . .
- In Deuteronomy 6 God tells us to hand down our faith to our children's children. My husband and I firmly believe God wants us to be engaged and focused on doing this. (There are more than 600 references in the Bible to this very thing.)
- We believe we are investing our time in what matters the most now, while our grandsons are young, so as they grow up, we will have the place, the relationship with them we need to hand down our faith.
- We believe it matters what we do now. We are not getting any younger; there are no guarantees we'll be around tomorrow, next month, next year or in five years. While none of us have any guarantees about how long we are on this earth, as we get older, we know the time before us is less than the time behind us as our time on earth is getting shorter. Why would we want to spend whatever amount of time we have left doing things which do not really matter? We want our grandchildren to grow up to be teens and then young men and then adults who know, love and walk with God. Traveling, relaxing, hanging out with others who have already raised their own children - while there is nothing wrong with these things - are not things which really matter.
- My husband and I want our son and daughter-in-law to know they are absolutely able to depend on us. When they need help or someone to stay with the boys, we want them to know they are able to turn to us. There isn't anyone else they may turn to who loves the boys more (my daughter-in-law's parents/family live in other states). They should know they are able to depend on us. If we are not there for them, for whom will we be there?
- We know how very blessed we are to be able to spend time with our grandsons. Many grandparents do not live near their grandchildren. We do. This is a blessing from God; one for which we are most thankful, one we do not take for granted and one which we will not squander.