Friday, September 11, 2020

Our Top Five Reasons for Being There

I know people who believe they should only let their grandchildren  spend time at their homes a couple times a month. They think it is "wise" to set "limits", so their own children do not take advantage of them when it comes to taking care of their grandchildren. They say this "frees them up" to be able to enjoy their retirement.

I disagree. I believe when we take this view, we completely miss what wisdom is when it comes to our grandchildren. I am happy to spend time with my grandchildren as often as possible. My grandsons have at least one sleepover at my house each week and with covid, two of them are at my house twice a week all day for virtual school while their parents are at work.

So, why do I believe it is real wisdom to spend as much time with my grandchildren as possible? Consider the following . . .

  • In Deuteronomy 6 God tells us to hand down confident faith to our children's children. My husband and I firmly believe God wants us to be engaged and focused on handing down confident faith. (There are more than 600 references in the Bible to this very thing.) 
  • We believe we are investing our time in what matters the most now, while our grandsons are young, so as they grow up, we will have the place, the relationship with them we need to hand down confident faith.
  • We believe it matters what we do now. We are not getting any younger; there are no guarantees we'll be around tomorrow, next month, next year, or in five years. While none of us have any guarantees about how long we are on this earth, as we get older, we know our time on earth is getting shorter. Why would we want to spend whatever amount of time we have left doing things which do not really matter? We want our grandchildren to grow up to be teens and then young men and then adults who know, love, and walk with God. Traveling, relaxing, hanging out with others who have already raised their own children - while there is nothing wrong with these things - are not things which really matter.
  • My husband and I want our son and daughter-in-law to know they are absolutely able to depend on us. When they need help or someone to stay with the boys, we want them to know they may turn to us. There isn't anyone else they will turn to who loves the boys more (my daughter-in-law's parents/family live in other states). They should know they are able to depend on us. If we are not there for them, who will we be there for?
  • We know how very blessed we are to be able to spend time with our grandsons. Many grandparents do not live near their grandchildren. We do. This is a blessing from God; one for which we are most thankful, one we do not take for granted, and one which we will not squander. 
There are more reasons, but these are the Top Five reasons we have for being there, for making the choice to focus on spending time with our grandsons, for being intentional about handing down confident faith and for recognizing we are oh, so blessed to be able to do these things.

I do not believe it is "wise" to keep our grandchildren at, "arms length". What else could I possibly do with my time which is more important?

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